OopsCupid guide · 8 minutes

The "What Are We?" Guide

How to ask the scariest question in modern dating without scaring yourself, or him.

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What's inside

Why the question feels impossible
Sliding vs deciding
Signs you want more than it's giving
How to ask (without the drama)
Reading the answer

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