4 weeks · 20 sessions · about 12 minutes each
Choosing Differently
Breaking the pull toward the wrong partners
For you if you keep ending up with the same kind of person, and the ones who treat you well somehow never feel like enough.
By the end
- A clear map of your pattern across past relationships
- Telling chemistry apart from compatibility, early
- A short list of non-negotiables you actually use
- A way of dating that gives calm a chance
- A written plan for the day the old pull comes back
How it works
- Five short sessions a week, on your phone, at your own pace.
- Everything you write is saved, and read back to you at the end of each week.
- Draws on schema therapy, CBT, ACT, behavioural experiments, relapse prevention, compassion-focused therapy. Self-help, not therapy.
This is a self-help programme, not therapy. It is about patterns in who you choose, and it never means that anyone who treated you badly was your fault. If someone you are with now frightens you, controls you or hurts you, please talk to a specialist service rather than working on it alone. In the UK, Refuge runs a free 24-hour helpline on 0808 2000 247. If you are in immediate danger, call 999 (or 112 in the EU).